Since more than 17 years, I have worked mainly with Family Constellations, until 7 years ago in groups, but meanwhile more in individual or couple sessions and based on the comments of my clients, I am good in it.

I have the experience of more than 3000 constellations, but in a session, all my experience isn´t important, it might give me hints, but each person is unique and that´s how I will treat you.

 

What are family constellations?

I am sure, most of you have heard or read about it, saw a video somewhere or even participated in one, as a representative or even had the chance to constellate an own issue.

It is always a fascinating experience, and most people are shocked that others know so much about one´s life and wonder, how something like this can change lives, heal, or at least start healing processes, but it does.

For me personally it´s the best method to change something important, get new perspectives, understand things, I never have understood in my life so far. I had worked as a cop for about 20 years, when I started to have some serious health and addiction issues. When somebody offered me to try out family constellation, I did not want to hear about it, but finally I went to a group constellation. I stood as a representative for a man, who suffered from MS (Multiple Sclerosis) and I felt things and had thoughts that for sure were not my own. I was completely confused what happened then and at some point I was able to have my own constellation, revealing a story of my family´s history, that I did not know anything about. And the funny thing, it was completely true and what happened after this session was amazing. Lots of things started to change, got better, even I did not understand, how a family history could have been connected to my own story. Then I went often to constellations and finally decided to become a constellatory, which I did in 3 years of school.

 

Here comes my explanation about Family or Systemic Constellations:

A family or systemic constellation is a good method to give us a new perspective and mostly a solution of so far unsolved problems, anything that we would like to heal either inside of ourselves or in relations to other persons.  This can be any mental, physical, emotional, or spiritual issue.

In my understanding constellations work with systems. In constellations we will constellate the elements of a system (i.e.: client + client´s anger). Constellation means how the client sees the relationship between him/herself to the issue or other person.

 

I have external systems, which are my relationships to others, for example:

Relationship to my parents, my father, my mother, my children, my brother and sisters, friends, co-workers, supervisors.

 

​And I have a lot of inner systems, for example:

Me and an emotion, like anger, sadness, shame, anxiety, shame, guilt, etc.

Me and my fears, insecurities, blockages, diseases, money issues, job decisions

and many more, basically anything you want an answer for.

 

In a session, I will, at first, have a short conversation with the client to see, what issues he has and offer different possibilities how to constellate this.

The final decision the client hast to make for himself. Often, I get asked “you have experience, what do you recommend to me.”  But it´s up to the client to make this decision.   I ask them to feel into the different possibilities and what makes most stress maybe should be constellated.

 

After decided what to work on, I start with the actual constellation:

I first write the name of the elements we need on papers. It always includes the name of the client and the issue. I do not do different issues in one constellation, because it would get too complicated.

Then the client puts put the papers on the floor or tells me how to place them (in virtual sessions).

This already gives me some insights about the problem of the client. If a client takes a long time to put the papers down, I know that he also has problems to make decisions.

Then I stand on the paper(s) and feel into it, or better into the person or issue.

Everything I feel, think or want to do, I share with the client, wait for his approval or disapproval, his thoughts.

Very often the first that I feel, is something that runs like a thread through the client's life, but sometimes it is a specific moment in the past. I never know where this is going to…

​Even I start with 2 elements, I always need more elements throughout the constellation. Sometimes I stare at a point on the floor or feel an energy somewhere, while standing on a position. Then I would put down a paper with a ¨Question Mark¨, or the name of a person, that the client can identify with the provided information. I will see the influence on the other positions and identify at some point the QM. The process continues until I find the origin of the issue.

 

For me, there are 3 possible origins of each issue:

A childhood experience/conflict situation without solution. To keep on living, this unsolved situation is placed in the subconsciousness and repeated throughout life without a proper solution.

Something that was taken from father or mother in a subconscious process, whenever the child wanted more attention, security or love from a parent, thinking when helping the father, he would be freer to give the child what he misses, but nothing changes, just the child has a problem more to carry through life.

Or it might be something that originates in a former life (which also can be constellated).

 

The process of feeling into the positions will continue until we reveal the story behind the issue and find the origin of it.

Before doing the solution processes at the end, I will summarize and explain the information to the client.

In the solution processes, I include the client in the constellation, who will stand on his own position(s).

At first, I will do the initiation of the Inner Child Therapy: Throughout the constellation, the client never seems to be in his proper age, mostly he seems to be a child, but the healing has to be done by the adult.

If the issue turns out as something that was taken from a parent in a subconscious process, it will be given back to the parent with respectful words in a ritual.

 

​A constellation has in my view, 2 major impacts on the client:

Client receives a lot of information, starts to think about it, moves different through life or better said in his system and therefore the other elements also must move different (if there are issues in a system, the system is stuck, and it must move again)

Constellations are also energy work, with an energetic effect, meaning, when the client stands on the position, doing the appropriate solution processes, he will receive a new positive energy…

In virtual sessions, the client will stand on positions at his home, while I do the same at my location, with the same effect. Distance never is a problem; the effects are always the same.

Often the clients directly feel a change or at least understand what has happened to them and what they can do to forward in life. One constellation is sufficient for an issue and sometimes I recommend the client to continue their process of healing with the Inner Child Therapy. 

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